Jason's Creed

A couple weeks ago I accompanied a friend to her Worlds Religion class here at BYU. In the class, a small religion in India, Jainism, was the subject of conversation. During the class, the great vows of Jainism were discussed. Ascetics of Jainism undertake five major vows that serve as guidance in their life of service. As we discussed these vows, it prompted the thought within me: What are my vows? What are my code of ethics? Over the last while, I have been trying to gather my thoughts on the subject and develop my own code of ethics. I chose a handful of words, or adjectives, I would like to be known by and expounded from there. The following is what I came up with. It will be refined and further developed. It is not perfect, but it is me. Enjoy!

Go placidly amid the noise, for the noise is ever growing. Garner and develop attributes that are becoming of a son of God and an emissary of His message. Stay true to yourself, no matter the consequences or opposition.

The centrality of faith to succeeding in this life cannot be overstated. To have faith is to have confidence in someone or something. Faith in God. Faith in family. Faith in humanity. Faith is an action word, and as such, precedes miracles. Be a man of faith, unwilling to flinch in the face of the adversary. Instead, seek to continually increase your faith and the faith of those around you. Faith is a key to progress. Cherish and strengthen it.

Do everything in your power to uphold, support and strengthen your family. Everything. Family is the most important institution in the world. When stuff hits the fan, as it inevitably will, there will be times when family are all who will stand with you. Never do anything to jeopardize the strength of those relationships. While immediate family will forever take precedence, always remember we are all members of the same eternal family. Act accordingly.

Be humble. Always. You are a child of God and, therefore, are of a royal lineage. However, without God you are nothing. Maintain a disposition of humility through all circumstance. All good fortune is not a consummation of your efforts as much as it is a gift from God. Be humbly grateful for those blessings.

Compassion is the lifeblood of all that is good in the world. Without it, humanity does not stand a chance. Be compassionate in every interaction, relationship and facet of life. Do not feign offered compassion, perpetuate it. Compassion is a key to happiness. We are all equal in the sight of the Lord and deserve one another’s deepest compassion. Show everyone the pure love Christ would.

Strive for excellence in every aspect of your life. To lift others, you must first stand on higher ground. Never get caught meandering in the maze of mediocrity. Strive for perfection in everything you do, great or small. The world deserves your best effort.

Surround yourself with greatness in everything you do. Associate with those who demand your very best and instill in you a desire to continually improve. Surrounded by greatness, your potential is endless. Anything less than greatness is an aggravation to your capacity to progress.

Never be afraid to act, for action is how we express our priorities. Be quick to act, but careful. Never permit action to precede thought. Appropriate caution and situational understanding are your ally. Do not settle for inactivity as it is a vexation to progress, both temporal and eternal.

Be responsible. Be dependable. Winston Churchill once said, “To each there comes in their lifetime a special moment when they are figuratively tapped on the shoulder and offered the chance to do a very special thing, unique to them and fitted to their talents. What a tragedy if that moment finds them unprepared or unqualified for that which could have been their finest hour.” Your preparedness for that moment depends, in large part, on the level of responsibility you carry and practice. Be responsible. Many depend on you.

Respect all you come into contact with, for at their core, all deserve your respect. Withhold judgment of others, everyone you meet is fighting their own battles. “In the quiet heart is hidden sorrow the eye can’t see” (‘Lord I Would Follow Thee’, Hymn 220). Offer nothing but respect. It will provide strength to those places the eye can’t see.

Be smart in all you do. Seek opportunities to develop intelligence, for it is intelligence that increases your ability to lift others. Always seek to understand before being understood. Be smart in your interactions and endorsements. Be smart enough to know when you’re wrong. Be smart and wise. The world could use more wisdom.

Get lost serving others for that is where you will be found. Remember, the happiest are not those who get the most, but rather those who give the most. The more you give of yourself, the more there will be to give. The greatest measures of happiness are found in service because “when ye are in the service of your fellow beings ye are only in the service of your God” (Mosiah 2:17).

Be honest in all your dealings, both big and small. Remember the truth will always prevail. Hold your truth dear but speak it clearly when necessary. Never settle for anything less than sheer, unadulterated honesty. In the like, do not offer anything less than pure honesty. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Your word is one of the most valuable assets you have. DO not depreciate its value with anything short of honesty.

Be patient and trust God. No matter where you are on the journey of life, know this: all is unfolding as it is intended to. Be patient and work hard. God will take care of the rest. He’ll get you there.

Lastly, be a fighter. The chorus of one of my favorite songs says, “Give me scars, give me pain, then they’ll say to me, ‘This one’s a fighter’” (Gym Class Heroes, Fighter). Fight for truth. Fight for love. Fight for family. Fight for God. Fight for freedom. Fight for friends and fight for all of those who can’t fight for themselves. There are people and things in this world worth fighting for. Never give up the fight!

I know I have been placed on this earth, and am being prepared, for great things. I know that my God is aware of me and everything I do. I know that my Savior lives and does so for me on a very personal level. I know that I have to capabilities to become someone far greater than I could possibly imagine. All that will be through Him. This process, of determining my creed, or code of ethics, was wonderful and eye-opening. It would behoove everyone to do the same. Steal mine if you have to, but the whole idea comes highly recommended.

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How Bad Do You Want It??

I don't know anyone who, in one way or another, doesn't want success. However, there are also very few people I know who want it enough to go get it. You may not be a huge basketball fan, or sports in general for that matter, but the guys on this video are ones who truly wanted it and made it happen. There is an illusion that many fall victim to that success will come. Rarely, if ever, will it "come". Instead, we have to go get it. I like to think of myself as someone who is willing to go get it. I have BIG plans and want to do BIG things, but none of those will happen unless I go get it. Unless I REALLY want it. :)

This isn't exclusive to sports. I only use this video because (a.) I love it and (b.) I think sports are easy metaphors to understand. ;) It applies to all levels of success and all hopes and dreams.

How much do you REALLY want it?

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The Best!

An old teacher recently proposed the following question to me: "If you were to leave this life tomorrow, how would you act today?"

The question has been the source of a great deal of thought and analysis since. If I am truly leaving this life, what do I want to leave behind? How do I want to be remembered? Will I be able to say I lived my life to the fullest? Fulfilled my unbelievable potential? Became who I know I can become? When the moment comes for my life to flash before my eyes, I want that life to be something worth watching. I want the scenes to be the ones people line up for days to see, not an ok dollar theater movie. I want to have been, done, and sought after "the best".

I was reading Elder Dallin H. Oaks' conference talk in the October 2007 General Conference entitled "Good, Better, Best". It is such a beautiful talk and unbelievably eye-opening! All too often we draw a distinct line between good and bad, between the adversary and the forces of good. But what about when the decision does not meet those parameters? What about when the decision is between two things that are both good? Reading Elder Oaks’ talk, it became clear how often these decisions present themselves and how vital they are. The need for a talk in general conference on the subject tells me one thing: The subject is extremely important for us. These are the decisions that can be the difference between happiness and ultimate happiness, or between success and reaching our full potential. Elder Oaks referenced the frequency with which we unfortunately settle for the good, forgoing the blessings of the best.

For some reason, we always, naturally fear the best. You’d think that would be an oxymoron, but I maintain that it could not be more true. Ha. Whether it is the longer fall if failure overwhelms, or the fear of what could be, we often allow fear to dictate the decision pushing us away from what is likely “the best”. We often do not even give ourselves the opportunity to experience what could be that best, writing it off. I would even contest that the adversary encourages what is considered “good”, knowing that it is better for him than the alternative. And it is significantly more difficult to recognize his crippling influence when his endorsement does not reek of evil. He stokes our pride and our fear to no end. He knows us and knows what it takes if we let it get there. I’m sure he smirks as he watches our pride and fear overwhelm what could be the best and, in our naivety, elect to go with the good. Probably not even aware of the gravity of our decision, we do not allow the best to have its intended impact.

A short bit ago, I decided to never settle for the “good” when it is in my control, but to always seek after the “best” and to do so with an open mind. When that day comes for me to leave this life, I will leave having always sought after the best, and having never allowed what might be slip away! :) For those are the situations and experiences Heavenly Father has blessed me with to help me achieve my greatest potential and return to live with Him. :) If I am going to leave this life tomorrow, I am going to make sure I have done all that I can do, served everyone I can serve, and chosen "the best" in every scenario. I will approach that great and last day with confidence in how I spent His time, knowing fear did not dictate the choices I made. instead, it will have been faith. And that is the first domino that leads to the best! :)

Do you want to settle for what is good when you could have what is the best? 


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"If your dream ain't bigger than you, there is a problem with your dream"

I could write for days about this but want to keep this one short and sweet. Life is to be lived in such a way that you are able and willing, at all times, to serve others. If you are not focused on others, there is something wrong. If your actions are solely intended for the betterment of yourself, it is my contention that you are ironically hindering yourself. If you are not making constant efforts to find how to improve the lives of those around you, something is wrong. It is empowering to be a part of something bigger than yourself that cannot be understood unless experienced. Some have questioned and criticized why I have played hurt. That is why. It is bigger than me.

Again, I could go on and on but I don't think it could be said as well as it was by my boy, Deion! ;) As one of my favorite athletes, I anticipated his Hall of Fame speech greatly. It was a culmination of an amazing career and unfathomable hard work. What I heard though, will have a far more lasting impact than anything he ever did on the field. Here is a clip . . . [the best part is around 2:15].

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Walking on Water

I am so unbelievably blessed! The amazing people I am surrounded by, the wonderful opportunities I am provided, and the glorious direction I am given are without comparison. :) Today was one of those days where that truth could not be more clear!

In my New Testament class, we had the opportunity to study and discuss Matthew 14. What a wonderful chapter! It is so full of applicable teachings and parables. Near the end, the story of Peter walking on water is shared. Reading through it I began to think about the remarkable application to our lives. 

A quick review: Peter, with the rest of the Apostles, was on a ship being "tossed with waves", as they were in the middle of a massive storm. Later that night, Jesus came to them, walking on the water. After an exclamation of fear of the apparent "spirit" they saw on the water, the Apostles heard Christ's voice comforting them. "Be of good cheer; it is I; be not afraid." Is there a more comforting sentiment? Christ then bid Peter come unto him, walking on water. Peter does, literally walking on the water, waves crashing on either side [at least I would imagine so]. At some point in his journey to Jesus, Peter became more and more aware of the boisterous wind around him, and he grew afraid. Unfortunately, as the fear grew, Peter began to sink, pleading, "Lord, save me". Christ then reaches out his hand, saving Peter, and asks why Peter doubted. 

The similarities to our lives are uncanny. Look around. The storm is raging stronger now than ever and we seem to be "tossed with [the] waves" on a daily basis. General adversity, poverty, and the adversary all abound in our world. It's not hard to see the storm that, much like the Apostles, tosses our ship. One of my favorite quotes is "I am not afraid of storms for I am learning to sail my ship". As Peter so aptly demonstrated, I believe we all already know how to sail our ship. Looking out beyond our own ships [our selves if you will], Christ is always right there telling us to be of good cheer and never to fear. He beckons us to trust Him and walk on that water. Trusting Christ, Peter was able to walk on the water as he focused on that final goal of joining Christ. It was only when he began to overwhelm himself with the turmoil that surrounded him that Peter began to fall.

Likewise, if we focus entirely on Christ and the goal to stand with Him at the last day, we can truly walk on water, so to speak. If our will is aligned with His, He will show us how. With Christ as our foundation and focus, there is no storm, wave, or level of wind that can keep us from standing upright on that "water" and moving toward Christ. All too often we allow ourselves to be distracted, to look around, and to fear what storm surrounds us. If we simply keep our focus fixated on Christ, not doubting, we will never sink. NEVER. I think it would be naive to believe that I will not ever falter in that focus, but it is a great strength to know that "His hand is stretched out still". Much like Peter's situation, Christ will never let us sink if we call out to him. 

That first step off of the boat is the ever-important leap of faith. I have recommitted myself to take that leap without hesitation. If Christ is beckoning me to do so, in whatever facet of my life, I will not hesitate to leap. It does not matter how fierce the current or possible future storm, or how violently my ship is being tossed. Dear friends and family help me see the potential of this life on a continual basis. By the example they set and the love they share, they show me how unbelievably beautiful our world is. "Despite its sham and drudgery, the world is still a beautiful place". When we simply take that step off the boat, the subsequent steps in Christ's direction, and maintain that eye single to his glory, not only can we calm our storms, but also calm the storms that surround us. What a beautiful opportunity and strength! =D

Look at the gem I found from freshman year! :) Majestic, isn't it??

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The Power of Prayer =D

"I Asked the Lord to Bless You"

I asked the Lord to bless you

As I prayed for you today,

To guide you and protect you

As you go along your way.

His love is always with you,

His promises are true,

And when we give Him all our cares,

You know He'll see us through. 

So when the road you're traveling on

Seems difficult at best,

Just remember, I'm here praying,

And God will do the rest.

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Merry Christmas To ALL!! :)

Those familiar with me are unavoidably aware of my near obsession with this time of the year! :) I look forward to it all year long. I try to emulate its spirit throughout the year as well. I may even be prone to POSSIBLY celebrating it a little early as well. Haha

I love the extroverted nature of the season. People seem so willing to look outward to help others maintain the level of joy that accompanies the holidays. I know I am not entirely alone in finding more joy giving presents than I do receiving them. [That is not to say that I do not enjoy receiving them too! ;)]

I believe the reason most are so eager to serve, whether or not they are conscious of it, is the centrality of Christ's birth and subsequent life during the holiday season. My testimony of the Savior swells during this time of the year, as it comes to a close. I am provided with many opportunities to reflect on the role He plays in my daily life. I have the opportunity to understand, however slightly, the role He plays in my exaltation. I love my Savior. He is my Redeemer. He is my exemplar. He is my best friend. And I absolutely love the opportunity to express my gratitude through service. It is an opportunity that should not be unique to this time of the year.

I love the centrality of family at the holidays as well. In the Survivor Finale, Coach said something to the tune of "If we don't have family, we don't have anything". Family plays a central role in everyone's life, whether good or bad, immediate or adopted. The time devoted to and available for family offers me unfathomable strength and joy.

I love the opportunity the season provides for reflection (see below). Whether prompted by the close of the year, or the humility of the holiday season, moments of self-reflection are common occurance at this time of year. Have I been honest in my dealings? Have I treated everyone fairly? Am I proud of how I have treated those in my life? Have I approached every moment and obstacle with my absolute and utmost best? Those moments are vital to growth! :)

I love the carols. I love the cookies. I love the excitement of Santa and Rudolf on Christmas Eve. I love the sociality. I love Christmas Eve dinner and waking up in the wee hours of Christmas morning. I love the tree and the lights. I love the smiles. I love the love. I love every aspect of Christmas time. It is only fitting that a holiday entirely devoted to a celebration of the Savior's birth can be cherished so much.

There are so many aspects of Christmas time that I absolutely love; far too many to write with hopes of retaining any ounce of your attention. So "I love it all" will have to suffice! I love Christmas and especially loves all of those [family and friends] who are a part of the season and a part of me. I am so unbelievably blessed. Thank you :)

Merry Christmas!!!!!!

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Subject of my Self-Reflection

I approach sharing this self-reflection and general observation with caution as I am aware just how frequently and regularly such reflections can be misinterpreted as pessimism and negativity. I could not disagree more. One of my favorite quotes, from Elbert Hubbard, is “To avoid criticism: Do nothing, say nothing, be nothing”. I firmly believe general optimism is not simple, blind bliss, but rather an honest evaluation of and approach to how things are, where they can improve, and how they can be. This reflection and observation, reflobservation, we’ll call it, is focused on an aspect of the centrality of human potential. It focuses on the vast potential that complete individuality provides us with.

One’s approach to life is undoubtedly unique and is the framework for their general outlook on life itself. Our approach almost entirely determines out outlook and, consequently, our reactions. Everyone faces trials and times of struggle. Although very different in nature, everyone deals with unique and personal tribulations. “Everyone has battle scars”. Some are the result of unfortunate circumstances, some are self-induced, and many are unfortunately the result of other people’s actions.

This reflobservation is centered on the regularity with which we bring trials upon ourselves, and maybe more unfortunately, upon others as a consequence of our lack of optimizing individuality FREELY. I firmly believe that we induce such pain on ourselves, and on others, due to significantly self-induced paradigm paralysis. That is to say, we get so caught up and overwhelmed by “what and how things are supposed to happen”, “what we are supposed to do”, and “how we are supposed to act”. Unfortunately, that can hide “what can happen”, “what we can do”, and “how we can act”. Paradigm paralysis occurs when we allow filters of perceived parameters [a paradigm] to hinder our development or individuality.

The vast majority of those paradigms are determined well before actual relevant events. They are rarely determined independent of exterior pressures and, again, independent of the professed limitations society wrongly applies. All too often we are who we are told we are, and rarely are we told accurately. The second we limit ourselves, or allow others to do so, we forfeit the right we innately have to realize our full potential, and consequently, positively affect others with it.

Growing up, we are told what is supposed to happen. We are told who we are supposed to be and the necessity of never deviating from that. I do not want to discredit any of that in the slightest. The direction I received from a young age has been paramount in my development. However, we are told how the smaller things in life are supposed to go. We are told how a relationship is supposed to unfold. Coupled with a lack of communication, I think that is the most debilitating aspect of a relationship. We have in our minds how a relationship will start, play out, and where it will lead. We have pre-determined in our minds who that person will be. What they will be like and what they like to do. When we choose to apply those restrictions to every situation, I wonder, how often do we choose to forgo greatness? My guess is far more than we should.

The same idea applies to what we do how we act. We are fed information about both on a continual basis. All of these labels and limitations prohibit us from expanding our horizons. It hinders our abilities to grow, develop, and begin to see the endless potential we ALL truly have.

The most overlooked part of all three is our tendency to develop our own paradigms and inhibit our own progression. If something is not how and what we think it should be or was going to be, we have a habitual tendency to completely write it off. We sometimes are our future self’s worst enemy.

I am fond of Marianne Williamson’s take: “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

BE YOURSELF! But don’t keep yourself from becoming a new and improved version of yourself. That growth is vital to our development. Step outside your box and try something new, or a new approach. It may be what leads you to finding that greatness, and realizing that potential. J

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Smile!

As I've mentioned, I am terrible about writing on this frequently. I've also noticed, reading through my posts, that many of them are an attempt to explain my erratic and often deep train of thought. Ha. For all I know, I am the only one who understands them!! Tonight's is something simple and fun that has been on my mind a bit lately.

SMILE!

I think it is pretty safe to say there isn't much a smile can't do! :) Having interacted with a bunch of different people, personalities, and situations that seems to be the only constant. When I am down a smile instinctively cheers me up. When others are down one from a friend does the same. It is hard to explain the power and joy a smile carries with it. [I guess the latter part is kind of self-explanitory. Haha]. When I get lost in struggles . . . when I begin to focus on disappointments in myself and others . . . I make a concentrated effort to remember how many reasons I have to smile! They are endless! As I do a smile creeps across my face and I am blessed with strength. Keep an eye on me if you're with me when I may struggle. I'm sure it is pretty comical. Haha.

I am so unbelievably blessed! I have the best family, related and not, in the world! Love them so dearly and can't help but smile just thinking about them! I have been fortunate enough to have been given so many opportunities and talents to bless my life and the lives of those around me. Again, smiles! :) I am surrounded by the GREATEST friends anyone could possibly ask for. The greatness with which I am surrounded constantly amazes me! Smiles, smiles, smiles. =D

There is ALWAYS reason to smile, however hard it may be to see at times. Next time the going gets rough, get smiling! [I may have changed that quote a bit. Ha]. I love smilling, and love nothing more than seeing people smile. It is beautiful! =D

They showed me this at the MTC and it is FANTASTIC! =D

Do it!! Smile! The world is a wonderful place made better when everyone is smiling! LOVE IT!

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I'm back. ;)

I think about every time I write a post on this blog, I do so with honest intentions to re-develop the habit of writing regularly. And more often than not I say so. Ha. One of these times I'll get the hang of it. :)

This last week I had the lovely, but arduous, experience of attending Matt's (little bro) 6th grade "graduation", or, rather, "promotion". I attended expecting a quick, heart warming, and tender ceremony. Instead it carried an uncanny resemblance to the real graduations I've attended over the years and recently. The principal, sixth grade teachers, and a selection of the students all spoke. The names were read off in procession identical to the high school's graduation. It was closed with a slide show of the pictures taken throughout the course of the year. However, it was another aspect of the hour long ceremony that caught my attention. There was a point when four students read poems written by all of their classmates. The assignment was simple: each student was to write a poem about what they wanted to be when they grew up and why. There were poems about doctors, vets, professional athletes, actors and actresses, and just about every profession one could imagine (sorry dad but insurance agent didn't happen to be one of them ha). But the many of the reasons "why" worried me. Unfortunately, that worry was not accompanied by surprise as I feel it is very indicative of where we are as people and a society. More than half of the poems read, listed wealth as the reason. "So I can be filthy rich . . .", "Then I'll have a lot of money . . .", "I can buy anything. . ." were all common lines in the poems read.  Please do not misinterpret my contentions as a naivety to the importance of financial success and stability. I hope to be successful financially, allowing me the opportunity to adequately provide for my family (the driving motivation and obvious priority) and have the ability to serve and change the world monetarily. However, what troubled me was the fact that the goals and dreams of these 11 and 12 year old kids were not driven by the love or joy of chosen career or activity, but instead by the pursuit of absolute monetary wealth. I remember, at that age, dreaming of being an NBA player, not for the huge paycheck that accompanied it but for the prospect of being the one to hit the game winning shot in the finals. I would count down in front of my house taking fade-aways and last second jumpers until I made it. :) Then consequently throwing my hands in the air in triumph, imagining the thousands of fans doing the same, sharing in that same joy. While financial benefits and advantages of various careers have taken a more central role as I have grown in maturity and education, to focus on it at such a young age would have robbed me of unfathomable happiness. It would have destroyed the hope and excitement I felt playing the game I love. Childhood is all about that joy. It is about enjoying the beauty of life while responsibilities are still small and the veil is still thin. It was so disheartening to see and hear that foundation and those principles abandoned at such a young age. However, it did give me an opportunity to reflect on what dictates our actions for better or worse. 

Before saying what I hope to, allow me to first say how beautiful i believe our world is. With all, or rather despite all, of it's sham, drudgery, and corners of darkness, the world is such a beautiful place. There is so much love, charity, and hope. There are so many who do so much good. Know that I am well aware and that I am a firm believer of the overpowering and ever enduring strength of good in that battle of good vs. evil. However, there is always room to improve. We can always improve our decision making and strengthen ourselves and there are always things to say. Ha. The reflection this experience has allowed me, led me to consider all that dictates our actions and decisions.

Upon reflection, my worries are not new nor foreign, and they are quite simple. Unfortunately, however, their fruits breed unbelievable complexity. I worry about how regularly our fears, doubts, and mistakes dictate our actions and decisions.

Fear is a unbelievably powerful feeling, and at times, it can be binding. Fear of what is happening or what is to come. Unfortunately, it is all too often that we let that fear determine how we act and how we conduct ourselves. Doubt, though a different sensation, has very similar and destructive effects. Doubt is debilitating and confuses us. It breeds uncertainty we misinterpret as a signs. Both are tools used by the adversary to thwart happiness and joy, the extent of which can often only be imagined.There is a plan set forth for all of us. Heavenly Father, omnipresent and omniscient, knows precisely what we need to grow nearer to Him and to be ultimately happy, and He always provides us with what needs to happen to attain that. When we succumb to the fear and doubt levied by the adversary, when we allow fear and doubt to dictate our decisions, we, ourselves, are fighting that plan of happiness. We are allowing the adversary to own us and tear us down to misery, ultimately his goal. We choose to reject the joy provided. I worry that it is all too common that we do this. In General Conference, we were taught that we must always remember one thing: "We must remember that He knows us, loves us, and wants us to succeed and return to Him. WE MUST LEARN TO trust in His love and in His timing rather than our own" [President Samuelson]. Allowing fear and doubt to overwhelm and affect our decisions is a direct contrast to that.

It is also important to know and realize that though you may be riddled with fear and doubt it DOES NOT MAKE YOU A TERRIBLE PERSON. FEAR IS NATURAL. DOUBT IS NATURAL. AS IMPERFECT HUMAN BEINGS, THEY ARE UNAVOIDABLE. BUT WE MUST BE CONSCIOUS OF THAT SO THAT WE CAN IDENTIFY IT WHEN IT ARRIVES AND ACT ACCORDINGLY.

Another tool used by the adversary to stop our progression, growth, and maturity is guilt and hopeless outlook in regards to our mistakes. We all mistakes and it is NEVER TOO LATE to make amends and right our wrongs. NEVER. Too often we beat ourselves up and believe it's too late. It never is! To think so only compounds whatever problem you are facing. 

To combat these tools and uncertainties, Heavenly Father has promised us that His answers are simple. They are clear. They bring ultimate happiness and always help us grow and mature. Keeping that in mind, and being conscious of the fear and doubt that will come, we can continue to grow with one another without digression. 

I guess one may consider this a "call to arms" of sorts. What decisions can we make better? What decisions can we change and improve? We ALL can and need to improve. Trust in the Lord. Let Him bless our lives without our interference. Do not allow fear and doubt to take place in your heart or your mind and tamper with your progression. I have committed myself to allow those blessings in my life to have their intended impact and place. To love fully without fear. To strive to be the best I can without fear or doubt of the future. I am doing my best and hope to continue to improve. :) You all should do the same! ;)

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Senior Poetry Project

So we were cleaning out the garage and I found my Senior year Poetry Project. And I found this little gem that I wrote my senior year.

The Mold

What is wrong with me?
What is wrong with you?
I think I may know, I'll give you a clue,
It is most likely, the mold by which we
judge so frequently.

I am not beautiful,
You can't play ball.
I am not an angel,
You're not very tall.

We are obviously not the same,
Yet we are judged on one scale.
Popularity has become a game,
A game at which no one can prevail.

What is wrong with me?
What is wrong with you?
ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!
What is wrong with society?

Made me think a bit! :)

There is beauty all around . . .

Taken by a pro! :)

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I'm Back!

I'm back! . . . Again. Haha. It has been some time since I have written on this blog and I apologize for that. I was thinking a lot about my favorite quote the last bit and just started writing. :) Having said that, it may very well make sense to only me. If that's the case, just smile and pretend like it makes perfect sense. ;) Haha

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others." [Marianne Williamson]

In her well-known quote, Marianne Williamson provides the substance for one of the most pressing questions we must ask ourselves, a question that provides an unparalleled opportunity for self-evaluation and self-realization. Why do we ALL, to an extent, fear success so fervently? Why do we fear worthy and righteous power? Why do we fear HAPPINESS?! I know even the thought of such habits sounds enormously ridiculous, but is it? Unfortunately I think those questions hit the nail on the head, so to speak. Take a moment to reflect and realize how often we plague ourselves with it. When have you limited yourself because of the uncertainty that success or happiness brings? When have you inhibited your happiness because of assumptions you have made.

We are SO richly blessed with everything we need to be happy. Ideally speaking, everyone should enjoy a state of happiness at all times. However, we make unfounded assumptions, we over analyze, we refuse those blessings of happiness, and we convince ourselves that we are undeserving of such happiness or that it is "not right". We couldn't be further from the truth.

Upon real reflection, our habitual inhibition severely lacks reason and foundation. I will never understand how we can limit our progression and happiness based upon what we convince ourselves as "reason to reject it" as opposed to embracing the natural truth of it's power. Or why we do it, for that matter. It is a direct contradiction to its purpose. That is to say, we are blessed with people, opportunities, and experiences that are tailored to facilitating our complete happiness. Our Father in Heaven knows us, knows what we need, knows where we are going, and consequently blesses us with what we need, ultimately providing us with that fundamental and everlasting happiness. To push away or not fully realize the power of those relationships and opportunities does not only constrict our happiness but also inhibits the power our Heavenly Father so readily blesses us with, does it not? The future is in best when in his hands.

"To fear the future and, consequently, inhibit our progression is not to condemn the future but instead to condemn ourselves". (Victor Hugo, “Les Mis”)

Instead, we can resolve to maximize our happiness by enjoying what Heavenly Father blesses us with. To develop the relationships he gives us opportunity to establish, to achieve all we are capable (a realization of our truly endless capabilities), to do everything to the best of our abilities, not leaving any heaven-sent opportunity unfulfilled, and to accept the happiness that is possible. It is not only a blessing, but a responsibility.

We are provided with what brings us ultimate happiness. Do NOT fear that! Do NOT inhibit it's ability because of the fear of what it means or entails. Heavenly Father’s infinite wisdom knows the impact far better then we do. It is why he has blessed us with what he has. "We are all meant to shine as children do . . . It's in everyone". Shine! Don't fear your own happiness . . . embrace it! Our potential for happiness and possibilities are as endless as the stars.  Be happy! :) 

 

CRITICAL THINKING II ;)

It has been quite some time since I have written anything on this blog. Haha. So naturally, there is so much to say!! Today, I'll just share some things I have been thinking about . . . 

Daily we have the opportunity to learn, grow, and develop as people: as friends, family, peers, human beings, and Children of God. Most opportunities pale in comparison to the potential of such daily possibilities. Unfortunately, often, for whatever reasons, we seem instead to CHOOSE to squander such opportunities and consequently endure the journey on a path of self-induced digression. So how do we avoid such digression and embrace the opportunity to grow and enjoy the subsequent happiness?

As I have thought about it, I have discovered much of what, I feel, leads us to walk down that path we build for ourselves. However minute, overly critical thinking, cynicism, and displaced and disparaging self-consciousness, all lend a hand to build that path step by step. 

A dear friend of mine asked the question, "Why are we trained as human beings to be so critical?", and it is a question that should demand an answer. [You should read what she said about it . . . she is brilliant! http://katrinamlewis.blogspot.com/2010/07/critically-thinking.html]. It is unfortunate that so many of us grow accustomed to the criticism, warranted or not, that is directed toward us. I feel obligated to say that CONSTRUCTIVE criticism is essential to our growth and can be used as a great ally as we learn and develop into who we can become. But, as is often the case, we take something so vital to the next level. We are overly critical of our our friends, overly critical of our peers, and, most unfortunately, overly critical of ourselves.

 

We must be critical of nearly everything. Every interaction, every decision, every relationship, every circumstance. When we feel a void or feel unsatisfied, it seems our first reaction is to criticize the first thing we feel is potentially responsible. Take a second to ask yourself what, if anything, your criticism is achieving. Whom is benefiting? Achieving nothing? Benefiting nobody? Used in frustration? Often our criticism satisfies all three, and that should be the first red flag that we need to rethink our words and actions. 

Our self-critical nature is directly correlated to an often damaging self-consciousness. Why is there such a need in our society to be someone else? To compare who we are to every single person with whom we have contact? When we feel as though we must fit a stereotype, look a certain way, or act in a certain way, we begin to change who we are, and consequently, who we can become. We take the unfathomable potential God has given us, and drop kick it out the window, deciding instead to reject who we are and try to create our own potential. NEVER can this be successful . . . yet everyone does it to an extent. Does that make sense to anyone else? I wish I could say I never did this, but the fact of the matter is I am as guilty as the next person. But this is always something I try reminding myself: I am a child of God. He created me, not only to do and be great things, but He also created me in his likeness. And he DOES NOT make mistakes. There is no need to change who I am or who I can become, for with His help, I will be exactly who He intends me to be, and that is more than enough for me. :) Keep that in mind. 

I just finished reading a book entitled, "Tuesdays with Morrie" [great read for those interested]. But in it, Morrie, a professor giving council as he nears an unavoidable death, begs the question, "Why buy something that does not work? Society has been proven to fit that description. So why buy into it?" The feelings of brokenness and failure when one does not fit into the mold they are attempting to fill is not a reflection upon the person, but instead a reflection upon the mold. Remember that!!

I have also realized as of late how difficult it is to compliment people and, for some, how difficult it is to receive compliments. There must always be strings attached. Why?! When someone receives a compliment from an acquaintance or a peer, there must be ulterior motives right? Wrong!! I love nothing more than, following a compliment I have given, seeing it accepted with a smile and a thank you. If someone is generous enough to give a compliment, there is no need to figure out what he or she means by it. Perhaps they mean exactly what they said? Food for thought. Haha. 

I think the root for that issue is our natural knack for cynicism. It pains me to see those who are so consumed by their cynical nature that there must always be something wrong. No one can be completely happy. There must be something they are hiding. No one can be genuinely charitable or give service. They must want something in return. There must be something wrong at all times. Why? I believe that each and every person is innately good. Some hide and disregard it better than others, but I believe everyone has that ability to be a shining light. When someone harnesses that Light of Christ and shines it, why can't everyone just accept it in all its beauty and glory. The Light of Christ has such power to bring joy! However, how often does our cynicism step in the way of us receiving it? I fear the answer to that is greater than we hope. But through that cynicism, the possibilities are endless. There is so much goodness and beauty in the world. Its our turn to show it, find it, and embrace it. 

Throughout these thought processes, I have continually begged the question "why?'. Why is it we do what we do, say what we say, or act in the manner we do when so often it is detrimental to ourselves and those around us? Unfortunately, I can only give an answer that for myself in its entirety. Each man and woman must do likewise and answer the question of why for their own individual. For when we do, we have given ourselves the power to instead focus on how we can improve. How we can draw nearer to Christ. And how we can influence our own lives and the lives of those around us positively and for good. Each and every day we have the opportunity to change the world. The ball is now in our court. 

I am so lucky. I am surrounded by amazing friends and people, ESPECIALLY as of late. =D They are such marvelous examples of me of how to avoid that path and how to reach the potential Heavenly Father has given us. THANK YOU! =D I cannot help but beam with joy when I think of certain people and how words cannot adequately describe how I much I love them and how important they are to me. With the strength they give me it is my goal to be exactly who I can be, free of any cynicism, criticism, and self-conscious tendencies. I thank my Father in Heaven daily for the incredible people he has placed in my path and for the unbelievable opportunities he allows me. I hope I can reach the potential He has instilled in me and be who he has intended me to be, and no one else. 

TAKING A LOOK AT MY LIFE, I AM SO UNBELIEVABLY LUCKY. AREN'T YOU?? =D

" . . . I am the master of my fate, I am the captain of my soul . . . "

LIVE.LOVE.LAUGH.

Our deepest fear . . .

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."


LIVE.LOVE.LAUGH.

So these are two of the GREATEST commercials of ALL TIME!! Haha. I happened to run into them the other day and figured I'd share!! =D Hakuna Matata! ;)







Oooo it's really growin now!!! =D Haha


LIVE.LOVE.LAUGH.

Live each day to the fullest. Get the most out of each hour, each day, and each year of your life. Then you can look forwardwith confidence and back without regret.

Be yourself, but be your best self. Dare to be different and to follow your own star. And don't be afraid to be happy. Enjoy what is beautiful. Love with all your heart and soul. Believe that all those you love, love you. Forget what you have done for your friends but always remember what they have done for you. Disregard what the world owes you and concentrate on what you owe he world.

When you are faced with a decision, make the decision as wisely as possible and then forget it. The moment of absolute truth never arrives.

LIVE.LOVE.LAUGH.

Good News!!

So yesterday, I went in for another appointment with my surgeon. These appointments are usually fairly uneventful and mundane. This time, however, my surgeon said something that was music to my ears! He ran the tests on and worked my lower leg as he usually does, then he said, "Jason, I really hope you plan on playing again because your progression is looking really good!" Kinda a big deal. Ha. He said it should start really strengthening in the summer. Fingers are crossed!! =D

"Pressure is nothing more than the shadow of great opportunity!" -Michael Johnson

LIVE.LOVE.LAUGH.

I love the power some events have of bringing people of all types together. And very few events rival the ability the Olympics have. It is such a celebration of life. All of the athletes have worked harder than most can fathom and have done so to represent their country.

Honestly though, how often do so many countries and people come together, desiring the same thing, a gold medal and national pride. And how often do so many people of so many different ethnicities and walks of life come together to celebrate the same things?

These two commercials are my favorites from the Olympics that I got off of Youtube! The first is a much deserved and needed tribute to moms. I am where I am because of my angel mother and mothers everywhere play such a crucial role in life. I think the commercial is a beautiful representation of that. The second is just a motivating commercial that really brings the Olympic Spirit! [And I love the song! =D]





And this one came after so many beautiful saves by Ryan Miller and was teh reason for eveyone in my house to go crazy!! Haha

Through A Child's Eyes

I have had the beautiful opportunity these past couple months to watch some of the cutest kids in the world. It has been so much fun and has brought so many laughs. Just the other day, the 5 year old was telling me about his birthdays and told me that "so far all of my birthdays have been on January 29th". Haha. Amazing! It has also opened my eyes and reminded me of how pure the world is through a child's eyes. It is unfortunate that we allow that purity to be lost as we grow older. I want to try to find it again! Who wants to find it with me?! =D

Here are a few short stories I found that make me smile and appreciate the beautiful and pure young children I am lucky enough to have in my life . . . There is so much for us to learn! =D

Through a Child's Eyes

Author and lecturer Leo Buscaglia once talked about a contest he was asked to judge. The purpose of the contest was to find the most caring child. The winner was a four year old child whose next door neighbor was an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife. Upon seeing the old man cry, the little boy went into the old gentleman's yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there. When his mother asked him what he had said to the neighbor, the little boy said, "Nothing, I just helped him cry."

Teacher Debbie Moon's first graders were discussing a picture of a family. One little boy in the picture had a different color hair than the other family members. One child suggested that he was adopted, and a little girl said, "I know all about adoptions because I was adopted." "What does it mean to be adopted?" asked another child. "It means," said the girl, "that you grew in your mommy's heart instead of her tummy."

A four year old was at the pediatrician for a check up. As the doctor looked down her ears with an otoscope, he asked, "Do you think I'll find Big Bird in here?" The little girl stayed silent. Next, the doctor took a tongue depressor and looked down her throat. He asked, "Do you think I'll find the Cookie Monster down there?" Again, the little girl was silent. Then the doctor put a stethoscope to her chest. As he listened to her heart beat, he asked, "Do you think I'll hear Barney in there?" "Oh, no!" the little girl replied. "Jesus is in my heart. Barney's on my underpants."

As I was driving home from work one day, I stopped to watch a local Little League baseball game that was being played in a park near my home. As I sat down behind the bench on the first-base line, I asked one of the boys what the score was. "We're behind 14 to nothing," he answered with a smile. "Really," I said. "I have to say you don't look very discouraged." "Discouraged?" the boy asked with a puzzled look on his face. "Why should we be discouraged? We haven't been up to bat yet."

"Whenever I'm disappointed with my spot in my life, I stop and think about little Jamie Scott. Jamie was trying out for a part in a school play. His mother told me that he'd set his heart on being in it, though she feared he would not be chosen. On the day the parts were awarded, I went with her to collect him after school. Jamie rushed up to her, eyes shining with pride and excitement. "Guess what Mom," he shouted, and then said those words that will remain a lesson to me: "I've been chosen to clap and cheer." "

"A lesson in "heart" is my little 10 year old daughter, Sarah, who was born with a muscle missing in her foot and wears a brace all the time. She came home one beautiful spring day to tell me she had competed in "field day" -- that's where they have lots of races and other competitive events. Because of her let support, my mind raced as I tried to think of encouragement for my Sarah, things I could say to her about not letting this get her down -- but before I could get a word out, she said "Daddy, I won two of the races!" I couldn't believe it! And then Sarah said, "I had an advantage." Ah. I knew it. I thought she must have been given a head start...some kind of physical advantage. But again, before I could say anything, she said, "Daddy, I didn't get a head start... My advantage was I had to try harder!" "

A little boy about 10 years old was standing before a shoe store on the roadway, barefooted, peering through the window, and shivering with cold. A lady approached the boy and said, "My little fellow, why are you looking so earnestly in that window?" "I was asking God to give me a pair of shoes," was the boy's reply. The lady took him by the hand and went into the store and asked the clerk to get half a dozen pairs of socks for the boy. She then asked if he could give her a basin of water and a towel. He quickly brought them to her. She took the little fellow to the back part of the store and, removing her gloves, knelt down, washed his little feet, and dried them with a towel. By this time the clerk had returned with the socks. Placing a pair on the boy's feet, she purchased him a pair of shoes. She tied up the remaining pairs of socks and gave them to him. She patted him on the head and said, "No doubt, my little fellow, you feel more comfortable now?" As she turned to go, the astonished lad caught her by the hand, and looking up in her face, with tears in his eyes, answered the question with these words: "Are you God's Wife?"

HAPPY VALENTINES DAY!!!!! =D =D